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Although none of us are flawless and we all have our flaws, you should be cautious about the types of flaws you’re willing to accept when dating someone new.
And, while we often attract a mirror of ourselves in order to repair the things that need to be addressed, there are still certain types of men you should avoid when dating. It’s not because they’re awful men; it’s just that their personality types don’t work well in long-term, healthy partnerships.
In the end, the decision is yours to make. However, if you have smokin’ chemistry with one of the men listed below, I strongly encourage you to splash some water on that pet before things grow too hot to handle.
f you want to find true love and have long-term, healthy relationships, here are eight (8) personality types of guys you should avoid dating:
1. The Perennial Bachelor
He seemed to have it all: nice looks, a steady job, a diverse group of friends, and a charming demeanor. He’s also had a series of long-term relationships that haven’t worked out.
This guy may claim that the only things missing from his life are “marriage and children,” but there are a million and one reasons why he’s never married Mrs. Right.
This guy hasn’t settled down in the past because he doesn’t want to. When things get too serious, he usually finds a cause to jet, even if he insists he doesn’t want to.
He’ll say something to the effect of, It’s not you, it’s me, as soon as the relationship gets serious and you’ve finally left your toothbrush and clean underwear in one of his drawers.
If he’s been a bachelor for as long as you’ve been alive, he’ll probably keep it up.
2. The Player
Monogamy is not an option for this guy. He enjoys spending time with her, but he also enjoys spending time with a variety of other women. Even if the sex with you is fantastic, it won’t be enough to make him want to have sex with just you.
Because he’s sloppy with establishing arrangements, frequently cancels on you, and never talks about the future, this type of person always makes you second-guess yourself.
Players will always make you feel insecure and leave you unsure of where your relationship is going. If you’re searching for a committed, monogamous relationship, this guy isn’t the guy for you.
3. Mr. Potential
This guy has a lot going for him, yet there’s always something holding him back. Maybe he’s having money problems or can’t manage to keep a consistent job.
He might drink a bit too much and, no matter how hard he tries, he won’t be able to stay sober. He may be lacking in ambition and unable to determine what he wishes to do with his life. You see so much potential in him, whatever it is, if he could just get his act together.
Allow him to get his life in order… without you, girl. A science project isn’t required. You’re going to need a man.
4. The Guy Who Says, “I Don’t Do Feelings”
Emotions, of any kind, make this individual feel incredibly uneasy. You’ll never know whether something is hurting him.
He despises conflict and avoids discussing anything too serious. He’s all about getting out and having a good time, but if you even suggest having a dialogue with him about how you feel about something, he’ll flee.
Relationships necessitate discussing difficult topics, not just those that arise within your partnership, but also those that arise throughout your life. If your partner gets a twitch whenever you cry, you might want to grab some tissues and pack your belongings.
5. The Non-Communicator
If he wants to see you next weekend, he waits for you to make the plans. When he’s running late, it doesn’t cross his mind to call and let you know. You might go days without hearing from him because he honestly doesn’t see the point in letting you know he’s still alive.
With this guy, you don’t know what he’s doing between dates, who he’s with or where you stand because communicating what’s going on with him just isn’t his thing.
The most frustrating thing about dating the non-communicator is that more often than not, he just doesn’t know he’s not communicating. It’s a way of life for him and you’re not going to change him. You be the communicator in this one and clearly communicate: “I’m out.”
6. The Lost Soul
It can be easy to fall for this guy. He seduces you with his vulnerable yet brooding, “I’m so confused …” mystique. He asks for your opinion on things.
He feeds your ego by tapping into your desire to help him figure his life out. He says he wants one thing, but his actions say something completely different.
He comes across as genuine and sweet and the fact that he seems to need you can be incredibly alluring. But, be wary of getting involved with this type of guy. It can be a roller coaster ride going on this journey with him and often will do nothing but drain your energy.
Sometimes, it’s better to remain his friend and allow him to do his own work solo before entering into any kind of romantic relationship with him.
7. The Lover Of The Chase
This guy loves the beginning of a relationship! He is a master at courting women. This guy loves to flirt, will love-bomb the crap out of you, send you dozens of text messages a day, and talk endlessly about how lucky he’d be to ever get a girl like you.
Once he finally gets your attention, reels you in, and lures you into the bedroom, expect a complete 180 from him. His barrage of flirty text messages, phone calls, and attention will come to a screeching halt. He’ll start acting distant.
Communication with him goes from multiple times a day to once a week if you’re lucky. You start to think maybe you misread what he wanted from you.
You didn’t. The chase is over and this is where the game ends for him. So let it end for you too. You deserve better.
8. The Narcissist
There is so much literature out there nowadays on the narcissist but it still bears repeating. This guy has tons of charisma and charm, especially in the beginning. He knows how to seduce you and will tell you whatever you want to hear. Often, it’s “I’ve never felt like this about anyone before” followed by lots of love-bombing.
The narcissist may love you but he doesn’t love anybody more than himself. He lacks empathy for other people and if you ever question him or what he’s doing, he will manipulate you into thinking you’re insecure, jealous, paranoid or just plain crazy.
At the end of the day, he’s out for him and only him and will use any form of manipulation to get what he wants. Run, don’t walk away from this type of guy.
Although it can be difficult to recognize the signs in the early stages of a relationship that we may be getting involved with one of these types of men, once you know he falls into one of the above categories, it’s best to get out before you get in too deep.
Love may be blind but it doesn’t have to be when you’re equipped with what to look out for in order to have a healthy relationship.